Divorce Actions

When a couple is involved in a divorce, it is a difficult event for them, but it is hardest on their children, especially if they are of a young age. As a divorce is going through its various stages, it is of utmost importance that the parents try to conduct themselves in a way that is in the best interest of the children.

Parents in the midst of a divorce should attempt to shield their children from the animosity that most likely exists between them. All attempts should be made to not involve the children in any way. There is absolutely no need for minor children to be told what is occurring, either from a financial standpoint or conduct standpoint. It does no good and, in fact, studies have shown it does much harm to involve the children in any way. At all cost, never make the statement to the children, "I can't understand why your mother/father is doing what they are doing to me and to you". Actions such as these generally are made in an attempt to alienate the children from the other parent. Not only does it harm the children, but it will put at risk the parent's relationship with the children. The old saying of what goes around comes around is very apt in this case.

Further, if the guardian ad litem or family court services were to learn of actions like this, it reflects very poorly for the parent in getting the placement they desire.

In conclusion, it is best to simply direct all actions that you take in a divorce to what a parent would reasonably believe is in the children's best interests.