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b2ap3_thumbnail_Untitled-design-24.jpgIf you and your spouse have decided to divorce, you may be wondering how to break the news to your children. The truth is informing your children that you are going to get a divorce is a difficult task. Fortunately, there are several ways you can reduce the pain and discomfort of this conversation and give your children the peace of mind they deserve. Here are five tips you should keep in mind when you tell your children about your divorce:

  1. Wait Until The Decision Has Been Finalized. You should avoid telling your children about your divorce unless you and your spouse have made a final decision. It is a good idea to wait until you have signed the divorce paperwork and custody documents and one of you is about to move out. 
  2. Make It Clear That It is Not Your Children’s Fault. Oftentimes, children wrongly believe that a divorce is their fault. You should make it a priority to make it clear to your children that your divorce has nothing to do with them. Simply tell them that you and your spouse grew apart or no longer get along well as a couple. 
  3. Refrain From Blaming. Although it may be easier said than done, you and your spouse should refrain from blaming one another in front of your children. If you blame one another, your children are more likely to choose sides and be upset with one, if not both, of you. 
  4. Do Not Share Inappropriate Information. The adult details of your divorce should stay between you and your spouse.  If you share inappropriate information with your children, they may resent you. Therefore, it is in your best interest to keep the conversation focused on your children rather than on you and your spouse. Let your children know when they will see you and your spouse, whether they will be moving, and other details that will affect their lives.
  5. Choose the Right Time. You should wait until you and your spouse are feeling emotionally stable and ready to support your children. Letting their teacher,  guidance counselor, and other close family members know before you tell them is a wise decision. Do not break the news to them before their birthday or another special occasion, or in a public setting. 

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Once you and your spouse provide your children with an age-appropriate and neutral explanation of your divorce, you will both feel a sense of relief. If you are considering divorce, you should contact our Milwaukee County divorce lawyers today by calling at 262-203-4916. 

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b2ap3_thumbnail_Untitled-design.jpgDivorce can be emotionally difficult and if you are not cautious, it can hurt your economic future. If you are going through a divorce, you should make every effort to avoid the following five common financial mistakes that can cost you a lot of money and leave you in a bad financial situation in the future.

1. Becoming House Poor. Often times, the family house gets kept by one spouse after the divorce. Whether you would like to keep the house because of your children or because you are simply attached to it or have invested money into it over the years, you should make sure you can comfortably afford to keep possession of your home. You may find that paying the mortgage and maintaining the house on your own will make you house poor and unable to afford the lifestyle you would like. 

2.  Thinking Short Term. It is common for divorcing couples to focus their attention on short-term problems and benefits rather than thinking long term. By thinking about how every financial decision you make in your divorce will affect you in 5, 10, 15, and 20 years, you can reduce your risk of making a mistake. 

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Delafield real estate during divorce attorneyIt is often a good idea to refinance your home before rather than after divorce proceedings. This is particularly true if you own a home that is jointly held by you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. In the event your home is jointly held, you will be able to sell the property or have one person’s name removed from the deed. If you choose to remove a name from the deed, you should consider refinancing before divorce proceedings for the following reasons:

  1. Your Credit Score May Drop. During a divorce, spouses will typically undergo many financial changes. If you share accounts with your spouse, your credit rating may go down when these accounts are closed. In addition, legal fees during your divorce proceedings can hurt your finances and credit as well. Therefore, it is a smart move to refinance your mortgage before your credit score takes a hit, so that you will not be left with a higher interest rate and higher monthly payments. 
  1. It Can Be Difficult to Refinance After a Divorce. All too often, couples do not remove one spouse’s name from their mortgage until their divorce has been finalized. The spouse keeping the home will be seeking a new loan, but they may not be able to land one that is suitable for their needs. If this occurs, a spouse may be unable to take over the mortgage, because a lender may refrain from approving a single borrower with a credit score and income that is lower than what was displayed on the combined application. Refinancing complications will then arise, and the spouse who will no longer be living in the house may still be required to contribute to mortgage payments.
  1. Plans Can Change During Divorce. While you may have originally hoped to divide your assets in a civil manner, the strong emotions that can arise during divorce proceedings can cause opinions to change. For this reason, it is better to make financial decisions, especially large ones that are related to your home, before matters between you and your spouse get emotional.
  1. Asset Protection. Asset protection should always be on your mind when you are going through a divorce. You should be thinking about your current life as well as the future to avoid bad scenarios. For example, if the name of your ex-spouse is listed on your mortgage and title, and they get in trouble with the IRS down the road, your home could be at risk. By refinancing right away to secure sole ownership, you can avoid these types of issues and protect your assets.

Contact Our Delafield Divorce Lawyers

If you would like more information about how to manage financial matters before, during, and after your divorce, the family law attorneys of Bucher Law Group, LLC can help you understand your rights and make plans that will ensure your financial security. Contact our Milwaukee County divorce lawyers today at 262-203-4916 to schedule a free consultation. 

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b2ap3_thumbnail_Untitled-design-22.jpgWhether a couple has been married for a year or 20 years, they are bound to experience some challenges. Often times, these challenges hurt a couple’s relationship rather than strengthen it, resulting in divorce. Let us take a look at the top 6 reasons marriages end in divorce.

1. Lack of Communication. A relationship cannot be successful without open lines of communication. When spouses fail to share their positive and negative feelings with one another and keep things to themselves, problems are likely to arise. 

Since marital problems cannot be solved when there is no willingness to communicate, negative feelings may build up over time--leaving problems unresolved and therefore causing frustration and resentment. This frustration and resentment eventually leads to a divorce.

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b2ap3_thumbnail_Untitled-design-19.jpgWhile divorce is difficult for the couple involved, it can also take a serious toll on the lives of their children. If you are going through a divorce, you should make it a priority to help your children cope with it.

Regardless of the age of your children, these tips are sure to help them get through this rough patch so that they can focus on school, extracurricular activities, hobbies, friends, and anything else that brings them the health and happiness they deserve. 

  • Avoid Being Critical of Your Spouse. You should be truthful when explaining the reasons for the divorce to your children. However, while you are being truthful, you should avoid blaming their mother or father and keep your negative feelings to yourself. You can hurt your children by speaking ill about their other parent.
  • Emphasize That They Did Not Cause the Divorce. Sometimes, children may believe that their parents are getting divorced because they were constantly arguing about them. If this is the case with your children, you should reassure them that they have nothing to do with the divorce. 
  • Always Tell Them You Love Them. During a divorce, life can get hectic and stressful, making it easy for you to forget to tell your children that you love them. A simple “I love you” every day is a powerful way to show your children that the divorce will not change how you care for and love them. 
  • Work Together with Your Ex-Spouse. Even though your marriage did not work out, your children should still be considered the most important people in your life as well as the life of your ex-spouse. Therefore, if possible, you should work together with your ex-spouse to raise your children well. It’s important for you and your ex-spouse to divide up parental duties and come to a custody and visitation agreement that has their best interests in mind.
  • Minimize Major Lifestyle Changes. You should make an effort to minimize major lifestyle changes that your divorce may bring to your children. For example, your children should continue living in the same home, attending the same school, and participating in the same routine and activities that they were prior to your divorce. Keeping life stable can reduce hardship on your child and help get their mind off of the divorce. 

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