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Helpful Tips for Breaking the News of Divorce to Your Children

Posted on in Divorce/Family Law

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For many divorcing couples, the well-being of their children is at the top of their list of priorities. Nearly every parent who has ever even considered getting a divorce has likely thought about how the end of their marriage will affect their children. Some parents may think that getting a divorce would traumatize their children, but studies actually show that most children adapt fairly well after divorce, as long as their parents put in an effort to create a loving and stable environment. Breaking the news of your divorce to your children is the first step in helping your children adapt to life with divorced parents. 

A Difficult Conversation

Although you may be dreading telling your children that you and your spouse are ending your marriage, it has to be done. Here are a few tips you can use when having that challenging talk:

  • Set the scene before your conversation. Before you talk to your children about your divorce, you should plan out a few logistical details. It is always best if you and your spouse are able to tell the children together. Be sure to gather all of the children at the same time and present a united front with your spouse. If that is not possible, then the parent with whom the children spend the most time should break the news to them. 

  • Plan out what you will say. This is one conversation that you should not improvise. You do not have to have your speech written out, but you should at least think about what you want to say to your children. What you tell your children and how you tell them will largely depend on their age and maturity level. Younger children will need simple explanations, while older children may need more details.

  • Be prepared for their reactions. Children have different personalities, and their reactions to the news of a divorce can vary dramatically. Some children do not really understand the situation and therefore do not have immediate feelings about it. Other children may be very upset by the news and worried about what will happen. Be sure you are ready for whatever they might say or do when you tell them you and your spouse are splitting up. You should be sure to reassure them that the divorce is not their fault, and you and their other parent will always love them and be there for them.

  • Make sure your children know they can confide in you. For some children, it can be devastating to hear that their parents are getting a divorce. They may feel like everything they know and love is falling apart, which can be traumatic for kids. You should remind your children that they can talk to you about anything, especially if they have questions or concerns about what their life will be like after the divorce.

Contact a Jefferson County Divorce Attorney 

Divorcing with children can be very stressful, but there are ways to alleviate the fear of the unknown. A skilled Milwaukee County divorce lawyer can help you throughout your divorce proceedings. At the Bucher Law Group, LLC, we can help facilitate meaningful communication between you and your spouse, which can help reduce the overall anxiety associated with the divorce. We will also protect your rights while keeping your children’s best interests in mind. Call our office today at 262-303-4916 to schedule a free consultation.






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